Becoming Your Own Friend

Mariam Naeem
2 min readOct 16, 2021

It sounds so easy sometimes. Becoming your own friend.

But there are a lot of things to deal with before you can come to terms with liking who you are. You have to strive to be the kind of person you’d want to be friends with. The kind of person you can hang out with.

A lot of self awareness is required when growing as person and being aware of who you really are.

There may come a day where you realise you can’t stand to be in a room alone because you’re afraid of your own thoughts and feelings. A part of growth is being comfortable with the fact that yes, you will have thoughts like that but yes, you are also able to conquer them with logic and an open mind.

1: Do The Things That Make You Happy

Starting to be your friend involves doing the things that make you happy. You’ll be comfortable with yourself when doing whatever it is that puts a spring in your step. Taking the time out to work out what you truly enjoy is one sure fire way of getting to know yourself.

2: Learn To Spend Time Alone

Being around people is great, fantastic even. But you’re not going to be able be your own friend if you’re never alone. Try spending some time by yourself. Go for a walk. Read a book. Take yourself out for coffee or lunch. Take yourself on a little ‘You’ date. Learn to be truly by yourself on occasion. Because there will be days where you will be by yourself and if you can’t learn to enjoy your own company then you’ll be left at a loss for what to do.

3: Learn To Meditate

One of the best ways to find out more about yourself is through meditation. It’s probably not the most popular of things to do especially for someone who doesn’t like to sit around, but it’s a way of silencing the mind and asking yourself a few simple questions about yourself.

We can only try to find ways to love ourselves. We have to make the choices in life we are happy with and can live with. We have to spend time with ourselves because if ever there comes a time we are forced to be by ourselves through situations then we need to know that we can cope by ourselves and get through it alone, because we won’t always have someone there.

Our strengths are determined by our wills.